If You’ve Been Betrayed, You’re Not Alone.
This space is for you—a place where you can begin to understand what has happened, regain your sense of self, and start rebuilding a future that you choose. Here, you’ll find support, practical guidance, and insights from someone who has walked this path before.
You Just Discovered the Betrayal—Now What?
Your world just shattered. Everything you thought was real has been called into question. The moment of discovery—whether through a confession, catching them in a lie, or uncovering proof—is earth-shattering. Right now, you might feel numb, panicked, furious, or like you’re drowning in pain.
This is trauma. And it’s not just in your head.
When betrayal hits, your nervous system goes into survival mode. You might feel like you’re in a fog, unable to eat or sleep. Or maybe you’re consumed by an overwhelming need to find answers, to make sense of it all. No matter what you’re feeling, you are not crazy. You are not overreacting. You are having a normal response to an abnormal situation.
In this early stage, most betrayed partners have three urgent needs:
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Stabilization: Regaining a Sense of Control
Right now, your emotions may be swinging wildly. One moment you feel rage, the next deep grief. This is the chaos of betrayal trauma. Your first priority isn’t to fix the relationship or even get answers—it’s to stabilize yourself so you can make clear decisions.
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Truth: Understanding What Really Happened
Your mind is likely spinning with questions: How long has this been going on? Who else knew? What else don’t I know? It’s normal to want every detail—but be mindful of how much you take in at once.
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Boundaries: Protecting Yourself Emotionally & Physically
Betrayal trauma can make you feel powerless, but boundaries give you that power back. Right now, boundaries aren’t about punishing your partner—they’re about protecting you.
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
This is one of the hardest things a person can go through—but you will get through it. Right now, your only job is to take care of yourself in the smallest ways possible.
You are not broken. You are not alone. And you deserve healing.
Ready to take the first step toward healing?
Step one is to not repeat all the mistakes I did. That's why I've put together a guide to the 5 biggest mistakes we as betrayed partners often do.
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Why work with Patricia?
Right now, you might be feeling lost, heartbroken, and unsure of what to do next. The person you trusted the most has betrayed you, and the ground beneath your feet feels unsteady. The emotions—shock, anger, sadness, confusion—can be overwhelming.Maybe you’re questioning everything: Was it all a lie? Am I not enough? Can I ever feel whole again?
I want you to know this: You are not alone, and this is not your fault.
I’ve been where you are. I understand the unbearable pain of betrayal, the sleepless nights, the obsessive thoughts, and the deep grief that comes with discovering a partner’s secret life. I also know that healing is possible—not through ignoring the pain, but by facing it with the right support, clarity, and tools.
I made a lot of mistakes that led to more pain for me, and I want to share those with you so you can start healing faster.v
The 5 Biggest Mistakes Betrayed Partners Make After Discovery Day And What to Do Instead
In this eight-page guide, I reveal the five biggest mistakes that betrayed partners make, which keep them stuck in pain and despair longer than necessary. So do yourself a favor—sign up and get the guide. In the following emails, I share my story and the mistakes I made.
